How to Get the Support You Need During a Divorce

How to Get the Support You Need During a Divorce

Jan 31, 2023

How to Get the Support You Need During a Divorce

 
Originally Published – June 12, 2020

 

When celebrities announce their divorce on social media, what do you think?

Thousands of responses to the news flood in.

Those announcements are harmless, right?

Maybe. Maybe not.

Here are some of the typical responses when such an announcement is made:

“I really thought you two had it all together”😩

“You were my favorite couple”😶

“If you all can’t make it, there’s no hope for me” 😳

“Are you sure you can’t work it out” 🤬

“You seemed like you really loved each other” 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

You’re probably reading this thinking: OMG! This 👏 is 👏 not 👏 helpful‼

My thoughts exactly!

When someone announces their divorce, generally speaking, they are looking for support…

Again, that’s generally speaking…there could be ulterior motives.

If you were to make a similar divorce announcement, this is likely not the kind of “support” you’re looking for‼‼

 

Feelings of others When a Couple Divorces

 

Unfortunately, a couple’s divorce often prompts us to respond with our hopes & aspirations for THEIR relationship.

We feel compelled to tell them how we feel!

Announcements aren’t wrong, per se, (it’s your business and prerogative to post what you want), but let’s discuss it.

We’re going to dive into how to prevent non-supportive responses as much as possible.

How to Get the Support You Need During Your Divorce

 

A divorce is an event that feels like your world is turning upside down. It infiltrates every aspect of your life. It can even shape your existence into something unrecognizable.

Going through a divorce truly takes a village. You need the support of your friends, family, and community now more than ever.

Most people in your life will not understand what you’re going through. When you announce your divorce, you aren’t looking for judgment or commentary on what they think your relationship was or could have been.

While they mean no harm, you want to be able to shape the responses and support you receive to help you get through the other side without losing the people closest to you.

Preventing non-supportive reactions is possible! Keep reading to learn how to do just that.

Peaceful Divorce Solutions | How to Get the Support You Need

 

The simplest (not to be confused with easy ☺) way to get the support you need from your family and friends is to tell them how to support you AND how not to.

It sounds overly simplified, but it’s an underutilized tool.

On the surface, encouragement from a loved one could sound like this:

“I wish you the best.”
“Let me know if you need anything.”
“I love you no matter what.”

Said with the best intentions, those responses don’t feel natural or normal to most of us, so they are coupled with 3- 5 other messages that you don’t feel are as helpful. You may have to guide your inner circle in the direction you want them to go.

Try out this script:

“Hey(friend/family member name). I wanted to let you know that (Spouse Name), and I have decided to end our marriage. This is a very difficult decision, and we still have a deep amount of (love, respect, concern, etc.) for each other.

I need your support in a significant way right now, and here’s what it looks like. I really need to know that you will be just as kind to him as you have always been. The best way you can help me and be there for me right now is by not asking questions about our process or questioning our decisions. I will share details as soon as I feel mentally ready, but I don’t have it in me right now. We both are doing the best we can for each other and the kids (if you have kids).

If you’re unable to support me in that way, I completely understand, but just know that I will likely need to take some space away from anyone that can’t give me that right now. My final request is that you don’t say “you’re sorry,” bash (spouse name) in front of the kids or me, or tell me that you’re disappointed because I just can’t handle hearing that right now.” (you get to pick what makes sense for your situation)

I’m aware that this script assumes that your decision to end your marriage is mutual (I know that may not be the case). However, if you feel like it could work, It may also indicate that your divorce is not overly hostile or high conflict.

Check out our Divorce Support Pack to grab that script and others to help you start & get through your divorce journey.

 

Peaceful Divorce Solutions | The Breakdown

 

While we always hope to have a peaceful divorce, it can be more complicated.

You might even be reading this thinking, “yeah, right, this will never work.

This doesn’t have to be the exact script you use, but I promise something similar can work with people that genuinely care about you and respect your wishes.

This is one example of what a modern mature divorce experience can look like.

You’re being specific and kind in your request while disarming someone of their gut reactions.

You’re also setting expectations and boundaries. Your family may still talk about you when you end the phone call, but you can’t control that anyway, so who cares!

If the person responds in a way that dishonors your request, then they may have to be cut out of your communication circle, at least for a little while. As the saying goes, when people show you who they are, believe them.

Protect Yourself During a Divorce

 

While sharing the details of your marriage during the good times is normal and feels amazing- It’s important to practice caution about sharing your pain, anger, and disappointment as openly.

In the FIIRM hero community, I shared guidance on revealing scabs versus wounds. (Shout out to Nikki Elledge Brown, btw)!

People will feel inclined to tell you how they feel about your relationships. They’ll also very quickly tell you how they feel about your soon-to-be ex as soon as you give them the space to do so.

The fastest way to open that door is by telling them everything you dislike about being married to your soon-to-be-ex.

Whether vocally or through social media, sharing your process and heartbreak, while cathartic, can be just as damaging. It invites the audience, some of who may be strangers and don’t really know you or your spouse, to give their perspective on your divorce.

Unfortunately, venting on social media brings a double whammy as it can also be used against you in court.

Any decent divorce attorney will tell you that it’s in your best interest not to share intimate details about your divorce on social media.

Along with that they may even suggest not sharing with your extended family/friends until it’s over.

It doesn’t matter if it’s:

👉A DM

👉 A private message

👉An individual or group text

👉 A closed private Facebook group

None of that matters. A simple screen shot can cause harm to your case.

Coping with divorce is complex, especially if we try to go through it alone. We all need someone we can trust and confide in.

Check out our Divorce Support Pack to help you start & get through the journey.

But we have to be careful who we invite to listen to our true feelings or strategies as the proceedings are ongoing.

Remember that your life is changing enough without adding to the harm and damage you can do by publicly announcing your anger and hurt.

If you do feel compelled to vent publicly, tread carefully and just be prepared for the possibility of a couple of chinks in your armor.

Below is a quick tip for getting support and protecting yourself during your divorce:

 

Three is usually more than enough company when you’re going through a divorce. Find two true friends and one therapist.
When you’re ready to scream:

“He makes sick. I can’t stand him”

“I don’t understand why he’s being so damn unreasonable”

“I wish I never had to talk to him again”

These are the only people that should get to hear it.

Divorce can be hard enough without worrying about judgment, disappointing others, and betrayal — keep that circle as tight as possible to protect your heart (and your case!).

We developed a tool to help you navigate your pre & post-divorce journey. Check out our Divorce Support Pack to give you the tools you need to come out on the other side okay.

Nikki Tucker

Nikki Tucker

Founder & Managing Director

 

Nikki is an experienced financial services professional, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst ®, and the primary divorce financial strategist for The FIIRM Approach. She helps female breadwinners prepare for divorce to avoid common financial mistakes and confidently maintain their financial security post-divorce. She uses proven strategies within the FIIRM Approach methodology so her clients can manage their money, debt, and credit and be connected to the right resources for the next phase of life. TAKE ACTION & LEARN about the tools that can help make your pre and post-divorce easier. Grab your FREE Divorce Support Pack.

Silent Preparation Series- Part III – Early Steps When Considering Divorce

Silent Preparation Series- Part III – Early Steps When Considering Divorce

Jan 18, 2023

Silent Preparation Series Early Steps When Considering Divorce

Silent Preparation Series- Part III – Early Steps When Considering Divorce

Updated January 18, 2023

Originally Published: June 15, 2021

 

Who You Gone Call?

 

If your answer was “Ghostbusters,” you’re definitely “my people.” However, if you’re preparing for a divorce, unfortunately, Ghostbusters can’t help you.

Sawry 😔

Next option…

“Call your attorney.”

All too often, we hear that when someone is considering a divorce, their first phone call should be to an attorney. But if we’re being honest, in some situations, that step might be too early.

And guess what?! You may not need to do that… or at least not yet.

We’ve heard the stories of nasty divorces that get dragged out in court or the constant fighting after the divorce is final.

We’ve also heard the stories of relatively peaceful divorces that still come with a hefty price tag.

And let’s be honest, if we’ve never been through the process, all of these horror stories scare the bejeezus out of us!

I honestly believe that if you and your soon-to-be-ex truly have good intentions, then divorce doesn’t have to be nasty, and attorneys don’t have to be your first phone call.

Plus, if your husband has no idea you plan on divorcing him, it’s OK to prepare in silence. 🤐

 

 

Download our Divorce Support Pack  to get started on finding the right resources to help you.

 

The First Steps a Woman Should Take Before Divorce | Consider What You Really Need

Notice I didn’t say what you want.

One of the early steps when considering a divorce in the FIIRM Approach Framework is about declaring your intentions in a tangible way.

Focus on the keyword here . . . INTENTIONS.

While there are some things that will be a priority for you, if you are dead set on “taking him for everything he’s got” or “limiting time with his kids” merely to stick it to him, this blog probably isn’t meant for you, and we shouldn’t waste each other’s time (respectfully speaking).

On the other hand, if you want to strategically get things in order and divorce as amicably as possible — then you’re aligned with the mission of The FIIRM Approach.

Note: we recognize that things may not end amicably, but it’s your intention to start that way.

During the initial phase, you’re considering what you want and need… the nice-to-haves and the need-to-haves.

Additionally, you’re considering what & whom you need to go through the process.

But as far as some of the needs, let’s look at a few examples just to make sure we are on the same page:

  • I need to be able to pay my bills
  • I need to do what I think is best for the kids
  • I need to know what to expect in this process
  • I need to feel comfortable speaking up for myself
  • I need to get comfortable spending time with my finances
  • I need to earn more money

Here are a few examples of things I classify as wants but are often communicated as needs:

  • I need my kids to stay in the same school/school district
  • I need to stay in my house
  • I need to maintain my same lifestyle
  • I need to control what happens at my ex’s house

We have legitimate fears, frustrations, and aspirations that are highlighted during the divorce process. Some things are connected to what we know about the person we married, while others are connected to what we know/don’t know about ourselves. 

So instead of thinking of it as needs versus wants, consider it as wants vs. non-negotiables.

For example, it can be a non-negotiable that you have enough money to pay your bills, but that may mean that you can’t afford to stay in your current home even though you desire to; thus, staying in your home is not a need. 

 

Early Steps When Considering Divorce | What’s the What?

The “what” comes down to something that seems so simple in layman’s terms but can actually be one of the most daunting tasks – Organizing Your Documents.

When you consider the “what”, one of the easiest yet scariest things you can do is get organized. It may take some time, but it’s often time well spent. 

The first step to organizing is to gather all of your financial documents. These documents include but aren’t limited too: 

  • Bills/Nonrecurring expenses
  • Budgets
  • Account Statements
  • Pay stubs
  • Titles/Property Documents

Gather documents for everything you own and owe, essentially anything else that’s part of your financial life. 

Now, organizing documents in itself may not be the most exciting thing in the world. Chances are it will hardly bring you joy. 

BUT, there are two primary things that come out of organizing – credibility & confidence.

Organized financial documents give you a better insight into where you stand and help with your credibility during your divorce journey. It indicates that you have a keen awareness of your finances and can back up your statements, ultimately leading to fewer headaches. 

Good financial reporting, a.k.a organized documents, also gives you greater confidence when negotiating and making decisions. 

So again – not the dictionary definition of joy, but pretty damn close when it comes down to it.
 

Understand What Divorce Options Are Available

 Some powerful forces can help you get through your divorce process, most of which you may have never heard of.

By the way, I have absolutely NOTHING against attorneys. They are necessary to the industry and can be extremely vital assets to you during the divorce process!

However, the divorce industry is changing, and there are certain steps a woman can take when preparing for divorce that doesn’t have to do with calling attorneys.

 

The Modern-Day Divorce Process Looks a Bit Different – Thank You Technology

While the laws still haven’t really caught up yet to modern times & technology, we will take the wins where we can get them!

Some divorce industry professionals are helping to change things.

I love it and want more of it… 😉😉

Plus, technology is playing a bigger role in divorce, too, especially since COVID-19.

Divorce pros that weren’t always at the table before now not only have a seat – they have a voice.

Consider this…

Fifty years ago, becoming an Uber driver or social media manager wasn’t a thing.

Yet here we are.

Allow me to introduce you to divorce in the 21st century.
 

Early Steps When Considering Divorce | Who’s the Who?

Learning about the divorce professionals out there is another step that’s vital to getting the support you need. Here is a breakdown of some of the most helpful professionals to add to your divorce preparation checklist.

Divorce Mediator

Mediators are neutral in the divorce process. They ensure that both parties are informed. Mediators don’t provide legal advice but can confidentially help you end your marriage.  

Divorce Coach

Divorce Coaches can help with the following: 

  • Strategic decisions
  • Understanding your state laws
  • Managing your expectations
  • Providing useful information 

All things that can get you through the divorce process more smoothly.

Collaborative Divorce Attorney

Collaborative Divorce Attorneys focus on two primary goals: 

#1: Fair negotiations

#2 Keeping you OUT of court

Certified Divorce Financial Analyst

Certified Divorce Financial Analysts can help you understand the financial decisions made today and their impact on your financial future. Things like: 

  • Property divisions
  • Tax issues
  • Earning capabilities

And plenty more financial aspects of divorce that you just aren’t quite prepared to battle.

Yep, I’m one of them. 

Divorce Mortgage Specialist

Divorce Mortgage Specialists understand how to evaluate income, child support, and alimony during the mortgage underwriting process and sometimes provide helpful education in negotiations.

Steps to divorce on your own steps to divorce with a child, and steps to divorce silently are all aspects I’ve worked with in the past. Learn all about . . .

  • The abovementioned divorce support professionals,
  • Where to start your divorce process,
  • And how to keep your divorce costs down.

I know you may be used to carrying the weight (alone), but I just want to remind/inform you that you don’t have to do this alone. 

This blog post may not be able to bring you through the divorce process step by step, but it can surely point you in the right direction. 

Learn about these divorce support professionals and more by grabbing your Divorce Support Pack Today.

Nikki Tucker

Nikki Tucker

Founder & Managing Director

 

Nikki is an experienced financial services professional, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst ®, and the primary divorce financial strategist for The FIIRM Approach. She helps female breadwinners prepare for divorce to avoid common financial mistakes and confidently maintain their financial security post-divorce. She uses proven strategies within the FIIRM Approach methodology so her clients can manage their money, debt, and credit and be connected to the right resources for the next phase of life. TAKE ACTION & LEARN about the tools that can help make your pre and post-divorce easier. Grab your FREE Divorce Support Pack.

5 Lessons Learned from Kelly Clarkson’s Divorce Journey

5 Lessons Learned from Kelly Clarkson’s Divorce Journey

Nov 15, 2021

Make Your Bedroom Your Sanctuary

5 Lessons Learned from Kelly Clarkson’s Divorce Journey

Lessons Learned from Kelly Clarkson Divorce Journey

 

 

 

Why Kelly Clarkson?

The dollars were big, the relationship turned hostile, and it appeared she was just trying to keep it all together when she probably wanted to kiss his a$$ goodbye… and many of us can relate to at least 1 of those!

While most of us don’t have Kelly Clarkson’s fame or her money, it doesn’t mean we don’t have her drama, or potentially could. 

So my friend, if you are a married or unmarried woman, this post was written with the intention of giving you some lessons that MIGHT be helpful at some point in your life.

This post is not intended to make fun or light of, or for that matter be disrespectful in any way to Kelly’s divorce journey. The experience sounds like it sucks and outsiders like you and me will NEVER know all the details, yet here we are.

Disclaimer: These lessons are NOT advice for your personal situation. Time and dates referenced are based on publicly reported/available information

 

Kelly and her soon-to-be-ex married in 2013 and filed for divorce in 2020

 

Lesson: Filing for divorce stops the clock in most situations. Why does this matter to you? Because I NEED you to understand that saying “This marriage is over”, moving out, or draining the account doesn’t constitute the “end”. Too many of us “stay in divorce decision purgatory” for too long. It’s not an easy decision to make, but it’s not official until it’s official — which means that sometimes not filing sooner can have negative financial implications. 

 

According to Life and Style mag, Kelly was awarded primary physical custody

 

Lesson: There is a difference between legal custody and physical custody. While we often see women “get the children”, it’s important to note that fathers CAN be awarded physical custody. Physical custody refers to the primary residence of the children, while legal custody largely refers to who has authority to make decisions. Being awarded primary physical custody before the divorce is final DOES NOT mean the same will stand once you receive your final judgment. (In short, don’t get too comfortable.)

 

Her soon-to-be-ex asked for joint physical and legal custody as well as over $400,000 in monthly support (including both spousal and child support)

 

Lesson: DUDE! $400K a month. Stop playing!! Anyway, I digress… The lessons about spousal and child support can be complex and are HIGHLY dependent on the family’s circumstances (location, income disparity, fit, age of children, etc.) however let’s focus on some important, relatively general, bits:

  • The preliminary ruling was that Clarkson pays her STBX just under $200,000 a month in support according to media reports. As more women become primary breadwinners, more women are paying spousal support. There are a number of ways that spousal support can be paid, but remember that the initial awarded amount may not be the same as the final. (See comfort note above)
  • Hopefully, you noticed that even though Kelly was awarded temporary primary custody she was paying child support.
  • Often it is assumed that the person who maintains primary custody (and sometimes even in joint custody situations) will be the RECEIVER of child support.

False my friend.

There are instances when the custodial parent is paying the non-custodial parent based on income disparity and parenting time.

 

Kelly asked for their prenup to be upheld

 

Lesson: Marital property is an asset acquired during the marriage. These assets may be purchased by either spouse, however, a prenup may dictate otherwise as far as the split of such assets when you divorce.

According to TMZ, Kelly’s STBX wanted all assets acquired during the marriage to be split evenly, as well as the income earned while they were married. Kelly’s prenup, if upheld, would prevent this from happening.

While it is possible for a prenup to be deemed invalid, it doesn’t happen often unless it was signed under duress, contained false information, not signed by both parties, or the terms are deemed unreasonably unfair/biased.

 

In 2021, Kelly asked the court to declare her legally single and restore her last name

 

Lesson: This is not uncommon, especially for divorces that are drawn out. The divorce may not be settled but the marriage can be declared officially over. AKA – Mingle like you’re single, legally!

 

Final thoughts

 

If you are preparing for a divorce or in the middle of one, please take note of some of the details of this divorce journey. The life of a celebrity can seem so different from yours, and, in a lot of ways it is. However, while we may not be able to hire the most skilled lawyers in the country to argue in our favor, the underlying principles of the law are fame agnostic. 

Think about how you would respond to each of the situations described above. 

If your response is that you would go CRAZY on your STBX, then it’s time to practice some patience and deep breathing, and maybe even grab the Silent Preparation Series as this digital resource can help you understand what to expect and how to prepare for a divorce. 

 

 

 
Nikki Tucker

Nikki Tucker

Founder & Managing Director

 

Nikki is a 16-year financial services professional, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst ®, and the primary divorce financial strategist for The FIIRM Approach. She helps female breadwinners prepare for divorce to avoid common financial mistakes and confidently maintain their financial security. She uses proven strategies within the FIIRM Approach methodology so her clients can manage their money, debt, and credit in their new financial life. TAKE ACTION & LEARN about the tools that can help make your new money life easier. Grab your FREE Ultimate Resource Guide HERE. 

Love: Reason, Season or Lifetime V1.4

Love: Reason, Season or Lifetime V1.4

Aug 31, 2021

Love: Reason, Season or Lifetime V1.4

AReal Life Divorce Story w/ Sade Curry

 

 

Introduction: Have you ever heard the phrase, some people come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime? While I didn’t create the phrase, it makes perfect sense to me. A divorce doesn’t make you a failure or a quitter. It’s quite the opposite, in most cases. These “love” stories will focus on the courage, lessons, & perspectives of everyday women (and some celebrities), to help you on your journey. Join me while we get in their business a bit.

Guest: Sade Curry is a proud member of Gen X residing in Saint Louis, MO, and is focused on her family and helping divorced women date and get happily married again. She prides herself on her confidence and can be found hanging out on the Dating After Divorce Podcast (on all podcast platforms and Instagram @sadecurry).

Dating after Divorce is a podcast for divorced women that explores the divorce journey and teaches real strategies for fully recovering from a divorce, rebuilding your life, dating, and getting happily married again.

Share YOUR real divorce story with us.

 

 

 

Get the insights you need to save time, money and stress during your divorce journey with our digital resource Silent Preparation Series. The Silent Preparation Series was designed for working women who want help strategically planning for divorce.

Nikki Tucker

Nikki Tucker

Founder & Managing Director

 

Nikki is a 16-year financial services professional, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst ®, and the primary divorce financial strategist for The FIIRM Approach. She helps female breadwinners prepare for divorce to avoid common financial mistakes and confidently maintain their financial security. She uses proven strategies within the FIIRM Approach methodology so her clients can manage their money, debt, and credit in their new financial life. TAKE ACTION & LEARN about the tools that can help make your new money life easier. Grab your FREE Ultimate Resource Guide HERE. 

What If Someone Made a Movie About Your Divorce

What If Someone Made a Movie About Your Divorce

May 15, 2021

What If Someone Made a Movie About Your Divorce

What If Someone Made a Movie About Your Divorce

Movies, Love & Marriage

 

I love LOVE!

I am the quintessential rom-com and romantic movie lover. Love Jones (my absolute favorite), Maid in Manhattan, Brown Sugar, The Choice, Sixteen Candles, and Dirty Dancing are definitely at the top of my list.

 

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I’m a sucker for one-liners too!

“You had me at Hello” (Jerry Maguire)

“ I love you and that’s urgent like a mf’er” (Love Jones)

“…you get the buddy and the booty” (Brown Sugar)

Ok, I digress.

Contrary to what people may believe, considering The FIIRM Approach helps women prepare their finances for divorce or separation, I also believe in marriage.

However, I am not going to act like our ability to marry isn’t oversimplified and our ability to divorce isn’t overcomplicated.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: most people don’t go into a marriage with the intention of getting a divorce.

The reality is that it still happens, and it’s too damn hard to do sometimes.

 

 

 

 

A Fact About Marriage:

 

Marriage is a contract. A legal contract.

It’s an odd contract that has very few pre-qualifiers, but it’s definitely one of the most serious contracts we’ll ever enter into.

So, what’s my issue? US divorce laws are archaic, and there’s not enough time spent on preparing people for the “legal contract” they are signing.

There’s way more emphasis on the “romantic contract,” and the downside is that the legal part has lots of invisible fine print.

 

I get it… researching the fine print just doesn’t feel romantic.

 

 

A Bit of Fiction:

Kim and Chris decide they wanted to spend the rest of their lives together on April 10th, after 6 months of dating.

They live in Chicago. Both are in their 30’s, and neither wants a big wedding.

Next, they make a quick visit to the City Clerk’s office to get a license on April 12th.

Married on April 13th, 3 days after the decision!

(The waiting period is only a day.)

Fast forward – 2 years later, they’ve loved, fought, and loved some more, but the love fizzled out and now both of them want out. Let’s call it irreconcilable differences, a.k.a, they want a divorce.

Obviously, the divorce won’t happen 3 days after that decision!

Does your dating period determine the length of your marriage?

Of course not, but…

Divorce is a major decision, they say!

Isn’t marriage?

People shouldn’t enter into contract (e.g. a marriage) lightly, they say!

I couldn’t agree more.

So, this is why it’s nonsensical that you basically only need a pulse to enter into said “contract,” but you need to draw pints of blood, sweat, tears, and maybe even a restraining order to exit the contract.

It’s what movies are made of 😉😉 though.

A little bit of fact and a little bit of fiction:

Enter the movie, Marriage Story (spoiler alert).

 

 

The Marriage Story Is About A Marriage Ending

 

Before I watched the movie Marriage Story, I didn’t quite know what to expect.

Admittedly, movies that have Oscar worthy storylines are usually movies that I DON’T fall in love with but sometimes I’m willing to give them a shot anyway.

My cousin BJ and I sat down to watch it after eating some amazing tacos.

I should note that BJ is an unmarried male who is also an actor.

Needless to say, watching Oscar nominated movies with a thespian is always interesting.

Without going into full detail and spoiling the end of the movie, I have two main takeaways.

 

(1) There was a seemingly normal couple going through the divorce process in a way that was so depressing and uncomfortable to watch that I quickly understood why it was nominated.

 

This was the type of movie that prompts real emotions/reactions from the audience (think yelling, eye rolling, anger, mouth on the damn floor)

That aside, the fact that this marriage story has been, or will be, the story for so many of us, flat out pisses me off. Some scenes were traumatizing and downright maddening.

After watching the movie, I wouldn’t ever want to get divorced.

Actually, I wouldn’t even want to get married (again)!

While the Marriage Story may have depicted a very accurate story for some real-life divorce experiences – IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE THIS WAY.

Which leads me to my other takeaway.

 

(2) Divorce does not have to be this complicated, nasty, or expensive.

 

While divorce is never a one size fits all situation, it’s absolutely possible for you to go through the process in a way that’s healthier than the dysfunction in Marriage Story.

Again, good movie, albeit a bit traumatizing for a newly, lol… but also a good opportunity to think about your divorce as if it was going to be turned into a movie.

How would you want your relationship portrayed on screen?

I encourage you to watch the Marriage Story followed by a documentary called Divorce Corp (I found it on Amazon Prime in 2020) and use both as motivation to do everything in your power to make your divorce process simpler.

If you are strongly considering divorce, I also invite you to join our Hero Newsletter Community  as we can help you make the first few baby steps in your divorce preparation journey.

 

 

 
 
 
 
Nikki Tucker

Nikki Tucker

Founder & Managing Director

 

Nikki is a 16-year financial services professional, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst ®, and the primary divorce financial strategist for The FIIRM Approach. She helps female breadwinners prepare for divorce to avoid common financial mistakes and confidently maintain their financial security. She uses proven strategies within the FIIRM Approach methodology so her clients can manage their money, debt, and credit in their new financial life. TAKE ACTION & LEARN about the tools that can help make your new money life easier. Grab your FREE Ultimate Resource Guide HERE. 

Love: Reason, Season or Lifetime V1.3

Love: Reason, Season or Lifetime V1.3

Apr 30, 2021

Love: Reason, Season or Lifetime V1.3

ARSL Story w/Candice Escobar

 

 

Introduction: Have you ever heard the phrase, some people come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime? While I didn’t create the phrase, it makes perfect sense to me. A divorce doesn’t make you a failure or a quitter. It’s quite the opposite, in most cases. These “love” stories will focus on the courage, lessons, & perspectives of everyday women (and some celebrities), to help you on your journey. Join me while we get in their business a bit.

Guest: Candice Escobar is a proud Millennial, residing in Texas and focused on homeschooling her kids while working from home. She prides herself on her vulnerability and radical honesty, and can be found hanging out on Instagram @_candice.escobar_

Listen to her divorce journey.

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Nikki Tucker

Nikki Tucker

Founder & Managing Director

 

Nikki is a 16-year financial services professional, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst ®, and the primary divorce financial strategist for The FIIRM Approach. She helps female breadwinners prepare for divorce to avoid common financial mistakes and confidently maintain their financial security. She uses proven strategies within the FIIRM Approach methodology so her clients can manage their money, debt, and credit in their new financial life. TAKE ACTION & LEARN about the tools that can help make your new money life easier. Grab your FREE Ultimate Resource Guide HERE. 

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